Premature Ejaculation - Causes and how to Avoid it

When it comes to treating premature ejaculation, I would say first and foremost, you need to relax. You know, oftentimes even if there is sort of a reflex where you don't need as much stimulation to reach your point of orgasm, it's also true that chances are you're feeling nervous or anxious or really don't want that to happen and that pressure that you're putting on yourself is getting in the way of you having the ejaculatory control that you're looking for. So take a deep breath, relax and realize it's about learning what we call the premonitory sensations

and by that I mean, you know, when you're getting sexually aroused, most men are focused on the sensations and their penis but you also have to notice what's happening to your breathing, whether or not you might be tightening in your legs, your buttocks, your feet. What other indicators do you have that basically you're no longer in what I consider your safe zone? And by that I mean you're aroused and erect but you're not approaching what I call that point of inevitability or that point of no return.

So learning what is your safe zone and on your own with masturbation, learning exercises that you can last five or ten minutes is one of the first techniques that you often would do working with a sex therapist. So some of your treatment options are learning those premonitory sensations. You can also use desensitizing creams where many clients use condoms because they like the fact that it cuts some of the sensation and stimulation. And you can also speak to urologists or doctor about the potential of medications. There are some off-label use of medications that are known to delay ejaculation

and sometimes they may be used as an effective treatment. I really want you to realize that if you can relax and let go and have a partner who's willing to sort of slow things down to help you realize what is that safe zone that you're going to have really enjoyable sexual experiences.